There are so many things in life that we can do to make our life better. Most of us keep waiting for that big open door to step through where life is so much better on the other side. There is no magic door. There are doors of opportunity but if you are looking for one door to make everything better, you will be waiting forever. This is evident by the amount of those who win the lottery and are not happy after the initial thrill wears off, some even go bankrupt.
This series of letters is going to build off ten topic starters. Over the next two weeks, I will be expanding on the following topics.
1. Love yourself! Way easier said than done. Learning to be happy with who we are in any given moment takes letting go of the past. It takes letting go of unreal expectations and learning to except things as they are. This doesn’t mean we don’t try to become better but loving yourself for who you are today is a vital step to inner peace and happiness.
2. Good self-care. You have already seen me mention more than once the importance of a healthy diet, moving and sleep. These remain vital to all quests for happiness and a better life.
3. Evaluate current habits. Some habits are healthy, and some are not. Evaluating which habits you need to continue to keep on the path of a healthy lifestyle is necessary for your self-development. That does mean once you have evaluated them, you need to replace the ones creating barriers with healthy habits.
4. Set goals. Like a healthy lifestyle, I talk about this one a lot. Having goals to keep us focused and moving forward is necessary for humans. We are goal orientated beings, even if the goal is to keep a roof over our heads.
5. Accept failures. My grandmother used to tell me all the time you never truly failed until you stopped trying. Look at these failures as learning lessons of how something will not work. Learn from them and try again.
6. Gratitude. Having a grateful view of life expands your happiness tenfold. When you can look at life and identify what you have, it is easier to work on what you do not. If all you see is what you do not have, there is very little happiness to be found.
7. Read and listen. Gain new knowledge every day. Whether through how to videos, books or podcasts, be learning something. You will keep your mind active and alert. Your mind is also good at connecting dots you may not see between learned knowledge. We used to say just read, but today there are so many other ways to learn information.
8. Negative thinking. This is one of the biggest indicators of road blocks to success. Don’t focus on what can’t be done, focus on what can. Negative thinking is dangerous to your future successes and even your health.
9. Accept change. You can’t get from where you are to where you want to be if you don’t embrace change. Some changes are exciting, but for most people change is uncomfortable. If you are imagining a different lifestyle, change is going to have to happen. Change is inevitable at any rate, trying to hide from it is another major roadblock to success.
10. Accept the past. Bad things happen, and they can be hard to let go of to move forward. If it is an event where trauma was involved, I encourage to seek out a licensed counselor to work though the PTSD surrounding it. The past defines a lot of who we are, but it doesn’t have to be a barrier to who we want to be. Learn to accept that you are not what happened to you but who you want to be!
I hope as just an overview, these were helpful to you. I will be continuing a more in-depth look at each one over the next couple weeks. Have a great day! May you find all the little successes in your day and embrace them.
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