Peace is defined as freedom from disturbance; quiet and tranquility. When you first feel real peace, you don’t want it to end. It is a place where stress, chaos and noise does not rule over your mind and body. It is a sensation that some people have never experienced.
The first step to achieving inner peace is learning acceptance. Many people find themselves in a circumstance or situation that cannot be changed. The control is in another person or nature’s hand. This is usually due to a previous decision we made that led us to that moment.
Beating yourself up will not change the situation. It is already here. Learning to accept this moment is not easy, I won’t lie. But when you learn to quit spending all your energy butting your head against an immovable wall, you will have more energy for the areas you do have some power and control.
Some things just happen. I have stage four cancer and my tumors are currently growing while ON chemotherapy. There is not a lot of things I can do about this. My area of control is listening to my oncology team and helping make decisions on the next steps. Other than that, it is out of my hands. I can’t control whether the medicine will work. I can’t control the tumors. When I learned to accept this as part of my reality, I was able to focus on other areas of my life and still find happiness and peace. There is a lot I can do in other areas of my life to continue to experience joy and happiness. This release of stress also helps my body fight the cancer. So, step one, LET GO!
The second step is living in the moment. Too many of us are caught up in the past and the future and missing out on the beauty and wonder of today. When you catch yourself hanging onto past events or tripping up on the future, refocus on what you are doing right now. Put your whole mind into the activity. The easiest way to practice this is learning to listen, really listen. Most us are thinking about something else like what to have for dinner while someone is talking to us. This means we don’t pick up on the nuances and sometimes even the content of what the speaker is saying. Learning to really listen, focus on the person speaking will not only increase your positive relationships, it will also teach you to in the here and now. Try to practice this in everything you do. What does the food you are eating feel and taste like? Close your eyes and really listen to the music you have playing. When working, learn to put your whole mind into the activity before you. This has many benefits but one of them is learning to stay out of the past and future.
This does not mean you don’t plan for the future. You should still set goals and even do that with your full attention. It just means that once we set our goals and plan, we cease to worry about it. Keeping your focus on your daily plan keeps you in the moment and out of the what if’s our mind can slip into.
The final step I will talk about is taking time outs. Make time in your schedule for something completely disconnected from the things that add stress to your life. Read a book, go for a walk or find a quiet space and just embrace silence. By putting your whole mind into one of these activities, your body can find a moment of peace even if you are still struggling to quiet your mind. If you are embracing silence, try not to think. I won’t lie, this is hard. But the more often you can do it even for a couple of minutes, the easier it becomes to just be and that leads you further on the journey to finding inner peace.
The three things I spoke upon are not the only ways to work on inner peace, but they are a great starting place. If you have any questions or need help with this journey, reach out to me. If you know anyone else that really needs help with this, I am still taking clients for personal coaching. Creategoodliving.com