Fairness is such an odd expectation. Many of us believe that the world should be a fair place. It should be, but the reality is that it’s not. Some are born into wealth, others poverty. It is just a fact that we are not born into equal opportunities and we don’t have the same strengths and weaknesses. It is not a right or wrong, it is just the way things are. This is our reality.
Despite this, the odds are not stacked against you. It doesn’t matter where you have found yourself, you can change the portions of life that are causing you distress. You are not helpless. You can change these things in most cases.
There are a lot of opportunities in life. But the question is, can we recognize these? We need to take the time and figure out what beliefs are causing us barriers. There are a lot of things we believe that are not necessarily true. The most common ones are the beliefs we have about ourselves. We have prejudices about our own abilities and worth. “I am not good enough.” “I am too stupid.” “I don’t deserve success or happiness.” They come out in our self-talk.
This self-talk creates a prison. The bars are beliefs, our subconscious and desires. They wrap about us just as effectively as actual bars and keep us locked in place. We even tell ourselves untruths rather than take risk. “I have to stay in this job that I hate because I need the money.” Many people will then try to make the best of the situation and live depressed and unhappy. This leaves them largely unprepared for change. The fact is things change. Be ready for it.
Along with opportunities in life, there are traps. Sometimes these traps form slowly. There is a story that is often told about if you put a frog in hot water, it will leap out. If you turn up the heat slowly, it will stay in the water until it’s cooked. Life can be like that. Things build and build, and we put off dealing with things as they occur and then we look around and we are trapped in a circle of problems that finally all connected trapping us and creating despair.
Why do I mention all these things? Change cannot happen if we believe we are helpless and have no way out. Being able to recognize these traps is the first step in finding true inner peace. What are some of these traps? Alcohol, gambling, shopping, taking on debt larger than our income’s ability to pay off and in some cases staying in an unhealthy relationship.
Life is an adventure to be experienced. It is going to happen so do you choose to live it in despair or happiness? The first step as I said is to recognize the traps around us and in front of us. The second is beginning to recognize opportunities for what they are and have the courage to reach out and grab them once we recognize them. This is the start of your journey into happiness and inner peace.
If you need help on this journey, I would love to assist you. I have four openings for this week. I offer a free consultation to see if we would be a good match and to define what you are looking for from a coach. Just reach out and contact me.
Have a great day and keep your eyes open.
Inner Peace and Happiness Coach
Personal Life Coach, Cheryl Matthynssens, offers free tips and activities to improve inner peace and fulfillment in life.