Fear and Peace
Fear is an emotional tool for the body. It prompts the flight, fight or freeze phenomena. This tool became part of the survival mechanism. Yet today, many of us have paralyzing fears that have nothing to do with our physical survival. Because it is part of our survival mechanism means that some fears are healthy and constructive.
Constructive fears can prompt action; things like studying, humility and motivation. It proceeds many personality changes, increased confidence and increased authority. These fears are instruments of change and progression. .
Destructive fears are fears that hold us back. It includes things like public speaking, being in crowds, failure or loss of respect, fame or fortune. It is often induced by lies we tell ourselves. That means the basic fuel of fear is deception. You have to confront those lies head on with truths. Often these fears originate from an event in our past and could go back as far as childhood.
So the first thing you can do reduce destructive fear is self-talk. We are born naturally cynical so you have to work to have that more positive mindset. Affirmations are used throughout the business world and have been proven to work. It is a major step in bringing peace into your life. Replacing these lies that rule us with positive outcome statements can create measurable change.
You can also replace the cynical mindset by watching what information you consume. If all you read, hear and see is negative, it will be almost impossible to create that positive mindset. You have control of your input. What you read, watch on videos or t.v. and in some cases music makes a difference in your outlook and attitude. Work to make most of these inputs positive.
Prayer or meditation is another tool that works well for many people. Focusing your energy on positive outcomes, visualization exercises of you without the fear and mindfulness are just a few ways to take that more meditative state.
The last thing you can do is face your fears. You won't grow if you jut try to stay comfortable. Let's take the fear of crowds, the more you react to this fear the greater it becomes. It can grow so strong that eventually you won't want to leave the house. Giving yourself short exposure to a crowd and then working to increase the time we can remain surrounded will slowly eliminate the fear.
Finding peace means giving up fears that lead to worry. Worry destroys inner peace. One of the ways to reduce worry is giving up a vested interest in the outcome. This will not work for fears that relate to our physical survival or the loss of someone we love. When you do what you can where you can and let go of the aspects you cannot control, you will increase inner peace.
If you do not know how to let go of a worry, I offer a 1/2 hour session that teaches a technique to at least reduce the amount of stress from fear and worry. This class is only $59. I am so sure it will work that I will offer a money back guarantee. If my techniques does not reduce or refocus your worries after four uses, I will gladly return the teaching fee.
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Personal Life Coach, Cheryl Matthynssens, offers free tips and activities to improve inner peace and fulfillment in life.