When thinking of habits, most people only think of bad habits. We have good habits as well. A good habit is any routine behavior that is good for our mental or physical health. There are so many of them out there. Exercise done regularly is considered a good habit. For some, morning readings are their healthy habit. You should make a list of how many good habits you have in your life. Often, we focus only on what is wrong in our life and forget to take stock of what is right.
There are some people out there that eat all the right things, find time in their schedule to run five miles and meditate to manage stress. I envy them. Some days, I wonder where the day went and why am I hungry? One of the things I have learned is that regardless of whether you are a CEO or running a household with active children, there are still things that all of us can do to stay healthier.
First and foremost, eat things that are nature made. Even if you are at your goal weight, this is just good advice. So many foods in society today taste amazing, but they leave you with breakouts, fatigue and crashes. Many of our modern-day illnesses were rare until we started messing with nature’s food supply.
One of the things you can do is shop only the outside of the grocery store except for staples such as spices or grains. If you think about it, most grocery stores are laid out in such a manner that if you go around the outside wall you have produce, meat, dairy, fish and bakery. Avoid man made products such as sugared cereal, box mixes and sugared juices. All most all are found in the inner isles.
Exercise if you are able when you are able. There are many articles out there on 5-minute workouts, office workouts or exercises you can do between calls and clients. If you are not able, move. There are movement exercises out there that even available to people in wheelchairs. Even just standing up regularly and doing some simple stretches is better than sitting all day. Of course, you should always check with a doctor and remain within their parameters.
Movement helps with fatigue and mental health. There are now studies that show that regular body movement is helpful to mental health and stability. This makes movement doubly important to self-care as it targets two important factors, body and mind.
Self-care should target your mental health from other angles as well. Reading to keep comprehension and your ability to analyze sharp. Quiet moments, whether meditation or just breathing deeply, are necessary to lower stress and re-center. Learning is important as well. The mind has a desire for knowledge; read up on your latest project, hobby or interest.
You also need to practice self-care spiritually. I am speaking beyond religious practices. We all have an inner sense of “I” that is not there when a person is deceased. You can’t do an autopsy and find it. It doesn’t matter what you call it: neurons firing, soul, spirit or sense of being, it needs self-care as well. It is so important that I offer a course on the benefits and roadblocks to spiritual self-care in my coaching program.
The bottom line is, however, that spiritual self-care is any ritual or practice that you do to take care of that inner you. Not your ego or your personality, but the true you behind fear or doubt. It can include rituals and religious practices, but not everyone has a belief system around religion.
Here are some ideas in addition or instead of religious practices. Meditation is not only good for mental health but spiritual health as well. Contemplation of life beyond our own daily existence is also a good activity. Finding your purpose and living in accordance with it also brings a great deal of joy and inner peace. Connecting with something larger than you. This could be as simple as nature or as large as your identified higher power.
The goal in self-care is to achieve a sense of being balanced. Feeling good in your own body and mind so that you can take on the challenges that life throws your way. Take time for yourself, it will payoff in the long run. I hope you have a great day!
You are unique. Each of us is born with inner potential. Like the child who can draw without an art lesson. The mechanic who can put a car together without a manual. We often call this second nature. Each of us has potentials that are unique to what makes us... well us. Finding these can help strengthen our self-love no matter how small.
Do you have a way with children? Can you write? Do you speak well in public? Are you social and a hold people together kind of person? These are all potentials. They don’t have to be things that make us stars though they can be. Sit down and make a list of things you are good at no matter how small. Get to know the person behind all the beliefs and habits.
Honestly face your self-imposed obstacles. How do you get in your own way? Then look for the belief behind that. Are you afraid of what people will say? Are you afraid of making a mistake? Finding the belief behind the obstacles is the only way to work on them. Once you have identified the belief, you can begin to work on replacing it with a new belief.
Forgive yourself. All of us make mistakes. To hold ourselves up to being perfect is an unrealistic belief. Look at your mistakes, find what there is to learn from them and then don’t repeat them. Other than that, let them go. Yes, this takes some practice.
Surround yourself with loving people. It is almost impossible to love yourself if you are surrounded by others with self-hate and outward animosity. Move away from those relationships and towards people who bring feelings of positivity, peace and love into your life. It will make all the other pieces of the puzzle much easier to achieve.
Have a prosperous day!
There are so many things in life that we can do to make our life better. Most of us keep waiting for that big open door to step through where life is so much better on the other side. There is no magic door. There are doors of opportunity but if you are looking for one door to make everything better, you will be waiting forever. This is evident by the amount of those who win the lottery and are not happy after the initial thrill wears off, some even go bankrupt.
This series of letters is going to build off ten topic starters. Over the next two weeks, I will be expanding on the following topics.
1. Love yourself! Way easier said than done. Learning to be happy with who we are in any given moment takes letting go of the past. It takes letting go of unreal expectations and learning to except things as they are. This doesn’t mean we don’t try to become better but loving yourself for who you are today is a vital step to inner peace and happiness.
Many people suffer from a lack of confidence. There are many things that contribute to it. If things can add to it, then there are things you can do to increase it. Here are the ten I most often share with clients. If you are doing some of them great. Just use the ones at are of interest to you.