Impatience as defined means to refuse to endure or to suffer. Many of us suffer from a lack of patience. This is especially harmful for goals as many people in the face of impatience or a need for instance gratification give up.
The most common cause of this is not accepting the way the world is in that moment. Sure, we can work together to change the world and we should. But when you are working on a goal, the reality around you now is what you must overcome and cope within life.
You can really see someone rail against this reality in traffic. Despite studies showing that zig zagging through traffic does really get you where you were going that much faster. It is measured in seconds not minutes. People will still risk accidents darting in and out of traffic or tailgating because they get impatient with the people driving around them.
When things are not going well or you can feel the minutes ticking by, what you are experiencing is a slowing of time. Yet if you really paid attention to the actual time spent, it is not as long as it feels. Sitting for three minutes in stop and go traffic can feel like thirty.
Impatience often leads to anger and anger is never productive. It can create a why bother attitude and that is very dangerous to goal completion. When you catch yourself being impatient, ask yourself what the real problem is. It is usually some lack of acceptance of our reality in that moment. You cannot stick with goals and achieve them if you don’t work on them in your actual reality versus the way things should be.
What can you do about it? First, identify where you are railing at your reality and see if anything in that is under your control to change. If it is not, then you need to find ways to occupy your time while you wait. Come to face this reality, often people, traffic and time will not follow your desires.
What do you get impatient with? I would love to see your answers. My big one is waiting in lines.