Life has setbacks, it is just a fact. Sometimes we fall or have the rug pulled out from under us. This happens to most of us at some point. The problem is that people can get fixated on a failure or set back and not recover for months if not years. This gets in the way of happiness and inner peace.
You must let these things go. I know, easier said than done. It is necessary if you want to achieve your life goals and find a little joy on the way. So then, how do you do this?
The first step is to accept that the setback happened. Maybe a business idea bombed, or a partner gave up on the idea. You can’t change these things once they have happened. The goal at this point is to accept your reality. Getting stuck on what should have been or what someone or something else did wrong is a waste of your time and energy. It won’t change what happened.
The next step is to realize that you are not alone. Surround yourself with supportive people and those trying to achieve the same goal. You will find that if you share a setback among this group that many will step forward with ideas of how to overcome the setback and the assurance that this has happened to them as well.
Another action to take is to analyze the situation. Is this a setback or is the idea/goal you are trying to realize just not one that is going to work? Sometimes realizing that we need to change our goal is as important as not giving up. It can be devastating to continue to bump your head against a wall that just won’t move. It is important to take the time to look at the situation and make sure that this is a stuck door over a solid wall.
Now, roll up your sleeves. Maybe it was an immovable wall. So what! If you are passionate about your business idea or goal, find another door. Passion has removed more obstacles than can be counted. I found in becoming a freelance coach that I was my biggest obstacle. My passion eventually overruled my fear.
Realize that most goals in life cannot be achieved overnight. Things that are worthwhile usually take a great deal of time. Don’t let yourself get frustrated if your timeline is turning out to be slower than you desire. If you are passionate and your goal worthwhile, it will be just as fulfilling a year from now as a month from now would be. You may just have to make some other short-term goals to fill the gap until the long-term goal is a realization.
Every time you trip or have a setback towards a goal, learn from it. You may learn fifteen ways something won’t work before you find the right path that does. Remember these lessons for future goals and desires. It is hard to trip up. It is worse to keep tripping over the same obstacle over and over. Learn from your experiences and grow! The bottom line is you haven’t truly failed unless you give up!