Happiness encompasses a lot of other words and psychologists have been trying to pin it down for decades. It is a broad word that includes contentment, cheerfulness, joy, high spirits, well-being and more. Positive messages and fun memes will not in and of themselves create happiness. However, positive affirmations sure don’t hurt.
Research around the globe has found that most people rate happiness as more important than a meaningful life, becoming rich or even getting into heaven. They have even connected happy states such as feeling fulfilled and having a positive outlook to physical health. Feelings such as these seem to benefit blood pressure, the immune system and more. It has even been linked to a longer life span.
It is one thing that a few people swear it works, a few people think it’s B.S. and most, do not understand.
If you’re among those that have heard about this before but don’t know what it is or how it works, I don’t blame you. Google this and you’ll get a complicated scientific explanation.
You’ll learn about frequencies and brainwaves and how the brain works and many other things that make your head spin. I’m surprised that you aren’t required to have a PhD to learn about brainwave entrainment, because honestly, it feels that complicated sometimes and I’m one person who knows how to do this right.
So instead of giving you another complex definition of this, with theta and gamma states, I’ll ask you a basic question.
Have you ever had moments in your life when you felt like you “attracted” good luck?
Impatience as defined means to refuse to endure or to suffer. Many of us suffer from a lack of patience. This is especially harmful for goals as many people in the face of impatience or a need for instance gratification give up.
The most common cause of this is not accepting the way the world is in that moment. Sure, we can work together to change the world and we should. But when you are working on a goal, the reality around you now is what you must overcome and cope within life.
You can really see someone rail against this reality in traffic. Despite studies showing that zig zagging through traffic does really get you where you were going that much faster. It is measured in seconds not minutes. People will still risk accidents darting in and out of traffic or tailgating because they get impatient with the people driving around them.
When things are not going well or you can feel the minutes ticking by, what you are experiencing is a slowing of time. Yet if you really paid attention to the actual time spent, it is not as long as it feels. Sitting for three minutes in stop and go traffic can feel like thirty.
Impatience often leads to anger and anger is never productive. It can create a why bother attitude and that is very dangerous to goal completion. When you catch yourself being impatient, ask yourself what the real problem is. It is usually some lack of acceptance of our reality in that moment. You cannot stick with goals and achieve them if you don’t work on them in your actual reality versus the way things should be.
What can you do about it? First, identify where you are railing at your reality and see if anything in that is under your control to change. If it is not, then you need to find ways to occupy your time while you wait. Come to face this reality, often people, traffic and time will not follow your desires.
What do you get impatient with? I would love to see your answers. My big one is waiting in lines.
There is a misconception about Inner Peace that impacts a lot of people. It is often thought that if you have inner peace than you are always passive, and life becomes pretty dull. This is not the truth, inner peace leaves you feeling alive and rejuvenated.
Here is how Wikipedia defines it:
"Inner peace (or peace of mind) refers to a state of being mentally and spiritually at peace, with enough knowledge and understanding to keep oneself strong in the face of discord or stress. Being 'at peace' is considered by many to be healthy and the opposite of being stressed or anxious."
Maintaining Goal Progression.
A lot of people set goals. A lot of people have a dream that could become a goal if written down using smart goal criteria. It is great, all these goals floating about. But what happens to a goal say three months down the road?
The truth? Most people give up on their goals as they don’t have a way of measuring progress, so it feels like you are getting nowhere. So many people give up on goals just short of achieving them. Part of this is self-sabotage, feeling like they don’t deserve it or are not using anything to track progress.
Having a method to track progress let’s you re-evaluate your goal if you are falling behind. Maybe you set the goal time line to short due to not knowing some steps you would need to take. Life happens. Goal dates sometimes must be moved back due to a current life situation.
Goal completion dates are not set in stone for almost all goals. If you miss a goal date, you haven’t failed. You just need to revamp your goals.
The first step to maintaining progress on your goal happens back in the beginning when you set your goals. You must set SMART goals.
Powerless… this word is usually attached to addicts as it is in their 12 step program. The truth is that many of us struggle with this feeling. It occurs when a person repeatedly tries to use the same techniques to try to get control of hang-ups and bad habits. Until we admit we are powereless in this cycle and ask for help, stress and anxiety will rise.
Four Techniques you can use to break free of this harmful cycle.